When sadness subsides, fortitude begins

Misery is like a journey more familiar to us than happiness, but a treacherous path, necessary to recovery. – Gerald E Nigma

Misery loves company, or so they say. It’s not a giving feeling, it’s a selfish emotion that draws onto its unsuspecting victims. It lures others who don’t feel it, just so that it can feed upon others’ sorrow. Though it may be true, most of us experience this feeling in solitude.

As perverse as it sounds, misery encompasses all things that are sad. Heartbreaks, loss, hunger, anxiety, fear, poverty, feelings of inferiority or inadequacy – the list goes on and on. Sometimes there is no clear cause to one’s sadness, yet it still exists. One word that can define this is melancholy.

melancholy /ˈmelənˌkälē/ (as defined by Google)


  1. a feeling of pensive sadness, typically with no obvious cause.


  1. having a feeling of melancholy; sad and pensive.

Feeling melancholy is a road traveled by all. It cannot be avoided, but it can be minimized. If you feel like you’re alone, you’re really not. Many before you have been in those shoes. Though the scenario may be different, the emotions remain the same. It is an important part of our lives, just as much as feeling the support and love of those who care for us, and vice versa.

A journey into the path of misery can be an arduous uphill battle. If you’re not prepared, it can devour you alive. It’s like traveling through unknown territory or on a narrow path, both as treacherous as the other. You may find yourself battling with no end in sight. But in order to overcome anything, you must press forward.

Living with pain can be difficult. Many times, you won’t understand why it gets to you. It just seems to swarm in at the most unfortunate, yet opportune times and can become increasingly overwhelming. The thing you need to focus on is not on what’s bothering you, but what will happen after you get through it. Even the realization of getting over it can be scary and sad, but it is necessary to recover your true nature. Your inner conqueror. Your happiest self.

Much like fear, there is a realization we can focus on to overcome it:

Realization of misery

  • Misery does not last forever, all things come to an end
  • Misery does not have long distances, look for a light at the end of the tunnel
  • Misery does not yield a bottomless threshold, there is ground where you can stand
  • Misery does not define who you are, getting through it and moving forward does
  • Misery does not control your life, you have the ability to change what affects you
  • Misery does not own anything, it only possesses what it can hold onto
  • Misery does not maintain itself, you provide the fuel to its flames
  • Misery does not live in a positive environment, be sure you get to that state and maintain the positive energy

Realizing all of these can truly help you overcome and move passed your misery. Once the sadness subsides, fortitude now begins.

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I, Gerald E Nigma, am a life coach, but foremost a writer and author. Having gained knowledge, both through my own experiences and education, I have helped many friends and acquaintances.

This site is dedicated to reaching out to those in need, who are searching for encouraging words, to help inspire, motivate and help get through life’s challenges. I do not ask for compensation. I only lend my ears and knowledge in hopes to see anyone overcome their situation. I do not provide legal advice.

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